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REVIEW Ä Slut Growing Up Female with a Bad Reputation ☆ [Read] ➳ Slut Growing Up Female with a Bad Reputation Author Leora Tanenbaum – Gym-apparel.co.uk Girls may be called sluts for any number of reasons including being outsiders early developers victims of rape targets of others' revenge Often the labels has notGirls may Up Female eBook #8608 be called sluts for any number of reasons including being outsiders early developers victims of rape targets of others' revenge Often the labels has nothing to do with sex the girls simply do Slut Growi. Intended to be an exposee into the underbelly of young adult women Slut purports to examine the power dynamic between young women and men that leads them to label others deserving or undeserving of the name slut The author had so many amazing opportunities to really delve into the psychology behind the label of slut as attached to a teenage girl Instead she produced a regurgitation of The Body Project and Reviving Ophelia for Cosmo magazine Many times in arguing for euality between men and women the author advocates women being promiscuous This bothered me You all know by now that I have no problem with sex But advocating that having multiple partners and thus opening up yourself to disease and unplanned pregnancy is a way of leveling the gender field as ridiculous Responsibility is never mentioned in the context of having sexThe uestion is asked outright How do you contest being labeled a 'slut' without criticizing what it means to be a 'slut' p212 That's a great uestion but unfortunately the author doesn't seem to have an answer except for women to have sexAgain I don't want to seem like I'm being a prude but I'm not sure that sex is the answer What about parenting and the responsibility of raising good men who value women as an eual partner What about empowering a women to make her own healthy sexual choices The only statement I outright agreed with was that while some girls may label others as slut they still need to be held accountable for their actions As the author states they may be victims themselves but that should not give them license to victimize others p201 Great point but nowhere does the author then give any idea how to achieve this If this a topic that interests you skip Slut and read The Body Project Slaying the Mermaid and Reviving Ophelia They do a better job examining power dynamics in male and female relationships and offering healthier solutions to fostering empowered women and men

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Ng PDF not fit in  An important account of the lives of these young women Slut weaves together powerful oral histories of girls and women who finally overcame their sexual labels with a cogent analysis of the underlying problem Grow. I had 3 problems with this book1 It outright says that males don't face similar ridicule or pressure This is completely inaccurate Sexuality is used against boys just as much as girls Boys are called fags and sissies Their masculinity is uestioned and they are pressured to be promiscuous in order to have status in the social hierarchy In one portion of the book the author discusses a study in which children are asked what they would think if their bodies were switched for that of the opposite sex The boys were very distressed by this idea and said outlandish things like I would jump off a cliff or go bungee jumping without a bungee to get my boy body back The author claims this is even further proof that females are denigrated and looked down upon in our society I think the author has completely missed the point here and misrepresented the boys' concern to prove her point I think the boys' responses shows how the accusation of being girly or lacking masculinity is used to enforce male gender roles And the distress of the boys shows that the pressure they face is just as intense as the pressure girls face Let's face it gender roles exist for both sexes and the pressure to conform to them exists for both sexes2 The author seems to believe that males and females are exactly the same I'm sorry but this is just not the case no matter how many people wish it to be Sexuality plays a different role in the female psyche than in the male psyche Does culture and social expectation play a role in how girls view and handle sex Of course But it is the sole force No And I'd venture to say it's usually not the strongest either Females by design either by creation or evolution pick your poison are community focused relationship building focused creatures The book repeatedly brings up the fact that most teenage girls don't orgasm or find sex pleasurable But the author refuses to accept the connection that this is due to the nature of a woman's sexuality Sure the selfishness immaturity and ineptitude of their young lovers do play a role as well But again it's not the only factor Studies repeatedly bear out that females enjoy sex in a committed relationship where they can build trust and let down their guard The author's assertion that the solution to the problem is to encourage girls to handle sex the way boys do to me is specious3 The author whipped out biological explanations when it suited her argument but ignored them when they did not The author bemoaned the popular media that young girls consume She argues that this media is responsible for a young woman’s expectations and hopes for love and relationships I contend that she has put the cart before the horse I think one could easily argue that media consumed by young females is specifically crafted to appeal to her naturally occurring desires Romance novels and chick flicks don’t shape a female’s fantasies or expectations The female fantasy and relationship expectation shape the content of romance novels and chick flicks Biology also explains why males behave the way they do Evolutionary psychology and the biology of behavior offer very simple and clear explanations for the “slut” phenomenon We are biological creatures Mammals Our bodies compel us to propagate our DNA The female of our species bears the burden of rearing the children So she has the ingrained need to mate with a male who can provide That need compels her to build a relationship so that she will have protection and help rearing her young Thus young women desire relationships This need evolved into our need for love and romance Males on the other hand are compelled to spread their seed as far as possible They also have an ingrained imperative to make sure that his offspring are in fact his It makes logical sense that a female who is openly sexual would create doubt in his mind as to the paternity of her progeny Thus he is likely to pursue sexually demure women The less willing she is to sleep around the confident the male can be that she is bearing his young only Knowing this it would also make sense that the females of the “pack” would use sexual promiscuity as a tool in competition “Pick me to bear your young You can be sure of their paternity with me But you cannot with her” The author is free to reject these explanations But it seems to me that it’s disingenuous to cherry pick biological ideas to suit your argument while ignoring the ones that don’tBut those problems aside I did agree with several things posited by the author I think that unhealthy attitudes about sex can really damage the psychological health and life satisfaction of any girl Believing that good girls don’t like sex or that sex is a carrot to dangle in the face of a suitor is damaging So is telling a girl that she is bad or a slut for acting out on her natural and normal sexual desires I also liked how the author explored the fact that slut is used against girls for reasons entirely unrelated to her actions She might be envied She might have developed earlier than others She might be the victim of a sexual assault Slut is most often used against girls by other girls in an attempt to maintain the social hierarchy in her peer communityThe afterward of this book is VERY good It was added to the 2nd edition and addressed uestions that she received after its first publication The answers the author provides to those uestions are great I wish the rest of her book had been like it

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Slut Growing Up Female with a Bad ReputationIng Up Female PDFEPUB #195 of sexual stereotypingAuthor Leora Tanenbaum herself was labeled a slut in high school  The confessional article she wrote for Seventeen about the experience caused a sensation and led her to write this boo. Snoopy handed me this book to read I'm very glad she didReading this book alerted me to some high school aspects that had gone reasonably beyond my observance I was pinned a prude a gay prude which somehow confused people but one nonetheless I did not experience the bad reputation of being pegged for a slut for sexual acts OR just being a freak Rather than girls calling me a slut just to encompass my not fitting in they went along to say I was just a strange freak I appreciate that they did not connect it with my sexuality although they did with my orientationMy nemesis in high school was one of the so called sluts Did I view her as a slut Well I'm not sure I believe in sluts I don't know if I believe in the term at all I don't think I did But even my nemesis did not sleep around I always knew her to be in reasonably long monogamous relationships if she reported any sexual intimacies I don't believe that even makes her particularly any Better than one who would enter those encounters without the history of a monogamous relationship I think the three C's apply here Consent Communication and Compassion If the three are present what's the problemI think the problem is the label and how easily it is thrown around This book did open my eyes to when the term slut is applied why how inadeuate the term itself is and the array of responses that tend to stem from a girl who has been dubbed a SlutIn the dining hall my friend looked at the book and said Slut Is that a book about sluts and I was speechless I'm not often speechless I didn't know what to say No it's not about sluts because to me there is no such thing as a slut It is about people who have been called them by others in less than kind environments However I knew this friend of mine to be one of the girls who would uickly call another a slag one of the British euivalents of a slut She was so afraid of herself being considered a slag that she was uick to jump someone else who might be called one for sleeping with someone before a relationship or for not entering the relationship at all or perhaps for having multiple partnersInstead I sighed and said No it's not about sluts; but since I know you like calling people slags I would prefer not to talk about it at present We decided it was best as we stood in line in the ueue for tea already cranky given the food leaves much to be desired that we would save the conversation for another time when we were less likely to grow angered It makes me sign to know I have already had many conversations of the sort with this friend but she seldom seems to remember themI am glad to have this knowledge I think it's useful for students teachers and those already gone from school It can provide extra understanding fro the school environment and even clarify some memories of old school times It is also a guide for future life for the slut label does not end with leaving education The ideas are good ones to keep in mind